Self-Worth
Your relationship with yourself influences and impacts all areas of your life. What you feel you are worthy of dictates what environments you entertain, who you allow in your life, what you believe you are capable of, what you think you can achieve, and so much more. Many of us begin with the belief that self-worth comes from acquiring money, status, love, admiration, popularity, the flashy car, the big home, a great body, or anything else that would prove our worth to ourselves and others.
External validation of worthiness only takes you so far and will leave your soul yearning for more and more every time. So after the newness fades of the promotion, new home, or new relationship, the dissatisfaction and yearning can creep back in. The habit of allowing the external world to inform you of your worth vs. cultivating a more secure and stable foundation within is a trap. When your self-worth is dictated by what you see or have outside yourself, you’ll lose yourself every time that experience, person, or thing exits your life. The sooner you realize that your worthiness isn’t contingent on anything outside yourself, the happier and more secure you’ll be.
True self-worth takes time to develop and bloom, like that of a flower, and is all an internal process. You need all the right ingredients to allow your worthiness to mature and come into full bloom.
For me, true self-worth comes down to accepting who you are right now, knowing there’s nothing more for you to do or achieve to be worthy of what you desire. This concept can be difficult for a lot of people to accept. Our society has perpetuated this false belief that we must work hard and earn our worthiness (amongst other things), but that’s simply untrue. Feeling worthy is as simple as believing you ARE WORTHY. Since feeling worthy is a decision, you can feel more worthy right now. Try it!
One quick hack to tune into this frequency of self-worth is to incorporate this into a meditation. While quietly sitting still, imagine yourself being the most confident and secure version of yourself. Tune into what that feels like in your body and your soul. Imagine knowing there’s nothing more for you to do or become, you're simply whole, worthy, and complete at this moment. What does that feel like? How has your energy shifted? How can you carry this feeling with you for the rest of your day, year, and lifetime?
Developing internal self-worth requires dropping the ego and unhealthy attachments to materialism. Many mindset shifts are needed to rid yourself of outdated and limiting beliefs, replacing them with new and healthy ones. This process takes time, but with repetition and grace, you can enjoy the long-term benefits of an unshakeable sense of self-worth.
