Attraction
When you're attracted to a person, place, or experience, there's most likely something for you to explore crucial to your personal growth and development. Even your "negative" life experiences have aided your personal growth and alignment.
In a romantic partnership, who and what you're attracted to within your person has more to do with your inner world and what's trying to be brought into awareness by your subconscious rather than desire or chemistry alone.
I see the point of attraction as a messenger guiding you to what you value, desire, and potentially wish to cultivate more within yourself. An example of this concept is being attracted to extroverts when you're more introverted. You've likely heard the adage "opposites attract" - this is that but with a purpose to self-discovery.
As an introvert, selecting a naturally extroverted partner is an opportunity to learn how to stretch yourself and come out of your shell more. It's also an opportunity for your partner to see the value of spending time with themselves to recharge vs. relying on sharing energy with others for fuel. The polarity dynamic here offers an invitation for mutual personal growth, achievement of better internal balance, and deepening one's understanding of humanity.
Seeking to understand what you may have to learn from those different from you is one of the best gifts you can give yourself and others. There's so much healing found with this approach and mindset shift, allowing everyone to feel seen, heard, validated, and safe to be their authentic selves.
You can start exploring the polarity of attraction in your life by remaining curious and open-minded when interacting with others and reflecting on the following questions and journal prompts:
I'm most attracted to these qualities in people...
Do you feel that you possess those same qualities within yourself? How comfortable are you expressing them?
What emotion or experience is tied to not feeling comfortable expressing that quality today?
How does being in connection with another person teach you to embrace this quality more? In what ways are you learning from them?
What is your polarity to this quality? How can they learn to embrace that quality more from you?
How do you balance each other out by simply being in connection? How has this evolved?
How is this relationship helping me to become more embodied? What areas are being activated by this connection?
We all have beautiful gifts of reclamation to offer one another. My hope is that you take inspired action towards embracing everyone's unique gifts as a point of bringing peace, connection, self-awareness, and understanding rather than being a point of separation of humanity.
